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Marriage is grand. Divorce is fifty grand

There’s a saying that “Marriage is grand. Divorce is fifty grand.”

But does it have to be that way? That’s one of the reasons I came up with the phrase, “Kitchen Table Divorce”.

I would like to think that the” kitchen table” part of the phrase evokes for many people warm memories of a safe, welcoming, and respectful, connection with family and friends.

Of course, the word divorce evokes for many just the opposite feeling.

So why not put them both together, to see if we can find a middle ground, a place where everyone feels heard, respected, and valued.

After all, separation and divorce does not always mean a complete disconnection from the other spouse, especially parents with young children.

I have always believed that anyone experiencing separation needs two important things in their life, namely a good counsellor, and a good family lawyer.

The counsellor provides emotional support when emotions otherwise run amok, and if left unchecked, the legal consequences can be unexpected, and catastrophic.

A good family lawyer needs a client with the emotional strength and stability to both accept and provide good instruction, otherwise neither the client, or lawyer, will be well served.

I am planning to re-start a kitchen table support group to meet virtually to help provide participants with both legal guidance, and professional counselling support.

If you are considering separating, or in the midst of a marital breakdown, you are welcome to join without cost or obligation. Both myself, and a counsellor, will be available to answer questions and provide guidance.

Regardless of the choices you make today, there are more memories ahead.

Let’s make them the kind you remember fondly.

Call to reserve your seat at my kitchen table. Talk to Scott 604.534.6361

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